Wanting so badly to get hooked is
something many people seem to
take far too lightly and for
granted these days. Something
some of them feel they should do
to win acceptance from people
and society. These days’ people
look at the package and never the
content, forgetting that marriage
should be a life time commitment
of two strangers. In some cases
the marriage may workout, like,
Charles and Diane, Tunde and
Wummie. But most of the time it
falls like a park of cards, because
as people are rushing to get in,
people are rushing to get out, at
an alarming rate. Kai!!
These days break ups and divorce
has become the trend as soon as
the honey Moon is over. People
use to think that divorce rate is
only high amongst celebrities, but
now, across board, couples are
falling asunder, going under the
pressure of a very bad decision ,
just because they Must Marry.
In these hard times, people are blowing
and burning pots of money on very
fancy weddings that really don't last
after the honey moon. In this age,
some parents still pressure their
daughters in getting married early. It's
like, once your girl crosses the 30yrs
bracket, they start to panic, getting
anxious and putting pressure on their
girl to get married, like it is that easy.
She just can't go to the market and buy
a husband, or can she? When the poor
girl insists on finding her dream man,
she is accused of being unserious.
Parents please learn to back off joor, it's
not by force. After all, are they the
ones who will leave with the spouse?
There is nothing wrong with waiting for
the right person, because if it is the
razzmatazz of the wedding things that
you enjoy, go ahead and throw yourself
a big nonstop party for a whole week.
After all, weddings are just one day
event, but a marriage is supposed to be
a life time thing. I know that weddings
are fun, romantic and you can finally tell
your girlfriends, boyfriends or your
sugar daddy's that you have finally
captured your own ‘mugu’. But has this
guy been tried and tested? Dating and
courting is a different matter from ‘Till
Death Do You Part’. Living with one
human being for the rest of your life.
My sister look the thing well oooo.
Bebe, do you have an idea how your
guy functions in rough weather? When
reality bites, is he calm or does he freak
out? Do you share the same interest in
some things? Bebe, before you rush
into this marriage, it is important to
learn where your partner stands on the
bigger issues of your life together. Do
you have the same values? Sit him
down and have a long talk about these
and other issues that are of importance
to you, you may discover that chances
of a long lasting marriage could be
slimmer; women are intuitively wired to
pick up these things. Are you a learner?
For me, I got hooked up with a woman
I never saw coming and a woman I will
never let go. When I met my wife, she
was not even a girlfriend or a lover. I
liked her physically, because she had
and still have curves that men would die
for, but she was never my idea of a
wife. She kept hanging around like
other beautiful women around me; it
was more or less a platonic relationship.
All the time I didn't know I was under
the microscope of the FBI and the CIA.
She was to tell me all this after our
marriage. Even though we dated for
about 3yrs, in my wildest dream I never
saw her coming till one morning after
sleeping over, she woke me up, looked
me straight into my sleepy eyes and
demanded that I marry her in the next
few days or she will leave me. Wow!
Before then, no one ever threatened
me like that, no one ever gave me
ultimatums. Who born them? Me
CharlyBoy? Little did I know that this
woman for years has been doing
research on me, this woman has seen
me ‘finish’, figured out how to arrest
and deal with me. When I was much
younger, I had a very violent temper, I
was obnoxious. And she had witnessed
me a few times in my rage with other
women. "Ain't you afraid that I will hurt
or harm you" to that she answered,
"you can never hurt or harm me
because I will never give you a reason
to" hummmmmm!!! Oh! See finish.
Bebe, it's easy to know what you are
getting into. If in doubt, investigate, set
exams for the guy. I believe women are
emotionally smarter than men. You
must know who you want to marry, it's
important for your happiness. You don't
deserve scrap especially if you are
hardworking, intelligent, progressive
and forward looking. Investigate him
from all angles, don't be in a rush joor.
You don't deserve that heartache
because the way marriages are crashing,
it's making me catch cold.
With the way things are going, very
soon we will be throwing divorce parties
and inviting friends and well-wishers to
celebrate divorce anniversaries. They
will choose asoebe, hire a big hall, with
Dbanj as the entertainer and Julius Agu
as the MC. Even questions like, "when
are you getting your divorce" will be
the buzz.
So if you know you can't handle the
pressure, remain single. If the man is
still under investigation, please take
your time, don't rush. If you know that
you are too horny to be faithful, biko
remain single and have a ball. If you
can't endure bad weather from time to
time, stay in your father’s house joor.
Never get married out of desperation or
because other people are getting
married. If you want a beautiful home,
like mine, examine your choice of a life
partner, there are a lot of gigolos out
there preying on desperate babes like
you. But show them say you pass
them. No be you?
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